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Warmly, Karen
Psychotherapist | Coach
Founder of Not My Closet®
About Me
Hi, I’m Karen. I’m a Counsellor, Trauma Recovery Coach, and founder of Not My Closet. I discovered my husband was gay after 24 years of marriage, and I specialise in providing counselling and coaching for straight spouses.
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