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Warmly, Karen
Psychotherapist | Coach
Founder of Not My Closet®
About Me

Hi, I’m Karen. I’m a Counsellor, Trauma Recovery Coach, and founder of Not My Closet. I discovered my husband was gay after 24 years of marriage, and I specialise in providing counselling and coaching for straight spouses.
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Recent Posts
A Straight Spouse Article in DARE Magazine!
I'm so grateful to journalist and author Sue Williams and DARE magazine (Australian Seniors) for shining a light on an experience so many of us know intimately: discovering, later in life, that a partner isn't who we thought they were. The article, appropriately...
Love (and Loss) Later in Life: Can Straight Spouses Find Love Again?
SBS Insight’s Love Later in Life celebrated reinvention, authenticity and new beginnings. But what about the spouses left behind when a partner comes out after decades together? Exploring loss, healing, trust, and the possibility of finding love again after straight spouse trauma.
Navigating Pride as a Straight Spouse
For many people, Pride Month is a celebration of freedom, identity, and long-overdue visibility. For some straight spouses, though, June can feel… complicated. Heavy. Even painful. If you’ve been in a relationship where your partner concealed or denied their sexual...



