by Karen | Apr 1, 2026 | Mixed-Orientation Relationships, Straight Spouse Trauma
Much has been said about harm that conversion practices cause to gay people. Far less has been said about the collateral damage of conversion practices on the women married to men struggling with same-sex attraction or hidden gender identity. My primary purpose of...
by Karen | Jun 25, 2024 | Mixed-Orientation Relationships
I didn’t want a divorce. Ever. The D word wasn’t even in my vocabulary. And so, as my marriage deteriorated, I tried harder. And harder. I remember solo evening walks, hearing the sounds of “happy families”, watching “happy husbands coming home to happy wives”,...
by Karen | Jan 15, 2024 | Mixed-Orientation Relationships
This week, Grand Designs Transformations Australia featured an unconventional family household: a woman, her gay ex-husband, and his new husband, all living together in the former family home. Closeted mixed-orientation relationships don’t always have a...
by Karen | Apr 11, 2023 | Mixed-Orientation Relationships
Last week, on the TV show, Insight, the topic was “Discovering a Hidden Past.” The key questions addressed were: Should discovering a loved one’s buried past impact your present-day relationships? And how does it shape who you are? Audience members revealed a...
by Karen | Feb 14, 2023 | Mixed-Orientation Relationships
It was a Tuesday, in 1989. Valentine’s Day. The day of romance. The day I accidentally got engaged to a gay man. Well, the engagement wasn’t accidental, but I certainly hadn’t intended to get engaged to someone who was more attracted to men, than me! The...
by Karen | Nov 15, 2022 | Mixed-Orientation Relationships
Last week would have been my 33rd wedding anniversary, but I am no longer married, and it’s no celebration. The movie My Policeman was released on Amazon Prime on the same day as my wedding anniversary. My Policeman tells the story of a closeted gay man who married a...
